ADHD Young Adult With No Motivation?

Why your son isn’t moving forward and what actually helps him take responsibility

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You’re watching your son stall…

He’s smart.

You don’t have to figure this out alone.

He has potential.

But he’s stuck.

  • Sleeps late or stays up all night
  • Avoids responsibility
  • Starts things… but doesn’t follow through
  • Gets overwhelmed easily
  • Spends hours on screens
  • Shuts down when pushed

And you’re left asking:

“Why won’t he just DO something?”

It doesn’t feel like laziness… but it looks like it

You’ve tried:

  • Encouragement
  • Consequences
  • Giving space
  • Being patient
  • Being firm

And nothing creates consistent change.

So now you’re stuck between:

  • Pushing him (which creates conflict)
  • Backing off (which creates stagnation)

Here’s what most people miss

This is not a motivation problem.

It’s a structure problem.

Young adults with ADHD often don’t have the internal system to:

  • Start tasks
  • Organize their time
  • Follow through
  • Manage overwhelm

So what looks like laziness… is actually overload.

And when pressure increases?

  • They shut down
  • Avoid more
  • Feel worse about themselves

Why pushing harder makes it worse

When your son already feels behind…

More pressure doesn’t create action.

It creates:

  • Anxiety
  • Resistance
  • Avoidance

So you end up in a cycle:

Push → Resistance → Frustration → Repeat

A focused student with curly hair in a classroom setting, engaging in learning.

What actually works

Progress doesn’t come from forcing big changes.

It comes from building structure that he can actually succeed inside of.

That means:

  • Breaking life into manageable steps
  • Creating realistic expectations
  • Building consistency before independence
  • Helping him experience small wins

Not perfection.

Movement.

This is where I come in

I work with parents of young adults with ADHD who are:

  • Living at home
  • Lacking direction
  • Struggling to take responsibility

Together, we:

  • Identify what’s actually getting in the way
  • Build a realistic plan (not an ideal one)
  • Create structure your son can work within
  • Help you guide him without constant conflict

You’re not just trying to “fix” your son.

You’re trying to help him move forward in his life.

Why I do this work

I don’t just understand ADHD.

I’ve lived it.

I know what it feels like to:

  • Want to move forward but not know how
  • Feel behind while everyone else is progressing
  • Have the ability… but not the structure

And I’ve spent years helping young adults — including my own son — learn how to build that structure step by step.

Not perfectly.

But meaningfully.

What you can expect

When this works, you start to see:

  • More initiative
  • Less resistance
  • Small steps forward
  • Increased confidence

Not overnight change.

But real progress.

If you’re ready for a different approach

You don’t need more pressure.

You need a plan that actually fits how your son operates.

Schedule a call with me

We’ll look at your situation and determine:

  • What’s actually holding your son back
  • What would create movement
  • Whether working together makes sense

You don’t have to carry this alone.

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Pricing

monthly retainer
weekly 1:1 Coaching Calls
$800 USD/Month
No Contracts.
Most families stay 3–6 months
…because that’s what it takes to create real change.
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Meet Coach Steve Gundy

Steve is a life coach and behavior consultant who works with families raising young adults with Autism and ADHD. He’s a true team player—walking with you to lighten the load—because he’s lived it personally: supporting his own special-needs son and navigating his own ADHD.

  • Owner, Steve Gundy Coaching Practice (North Central Indiana)
  • Leads a team providing behavior services through Indiana’s Bureau of Developmental Disabilities and private coaching
  • 100+ behavior plans for individuals with Autism + 500+ hours coaching young adults with ADHD
  • BA Psychology (Taylor University), MSW (Andrews University), AACC (ADD Coach Academy)
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Praise From Parents

  • Steve’s work with us is amazing!

    Steve’s work with us is amazing! I don’t think I have ever seen someone so dedicated and work so hard to support me and my three sons. Your role in our lives has been instrumental. We would not be where we are without him! Steve is caring and still professional. It’s a hard balance, but he does it effortlessly.
    Karen
    Mother of three sons living with Autism

  • When issues come up, Steve is there!

    When issues come up, Steve is there! I really appreciate his “no-nonsense” approach and challenge my young adult son to “get honest” with himself when he experiences challenges with his behavior.
    Kim
    Mother of a son living with Autism

  • He is consistent, kind, and helpful…

    Steve is truly phenomenal. We are so grateful for his help and care. He is consistent, kind, and helpful in explaining the “whys” behind my son’s challenges. Steve is encouraging to both the individual and family and helps us make forward progress despite the challenges and on to a joyful quality of life. Thank you, Steve!
    Mary
    Mother of a son living with Autism & ADHD

  • ..built such a trustworthy relationship with me and my son..

    Steve has built such a trustworthy relationship with me and my son that when he is struggling, he feels safe, helped, and supported through his challenges. Steve helps me and my son move from stuck to unstuck. Steve is extremely helpful and could not fit our family better.
    Sarah
    Mother of son living with Autism & ADHD

  • Steve welcomes communication!

    Steve does the best job ever! Whenever I have questions or concerns, Steve welcomes communication! He wisely evaluates needs with insight, executes realistic plans, and adapts to whatever is most pressing for me and my son.
    Lisa
    Mother of son living with Autism & ADHD

  • …a plan with noticeable and marked improvement.

    Steve is phenomenal at engaging the client, helping guide our family to interact positively, and helping instill adaptive strategies in a kind and sustainable way. He is incredibly intuitive and helpful in problem-solving and creating a plan with noticeable and marked improvement. We are very grateful for Steve’s intentional investment in our son and the consistent help and invaluable resources he provides.
    Stacy
    Mother of son living with Autism

  • …a trustworthy, ethical, spiritual, and insightful man.

    Our son can now appropriately cope with unexpected changes in his daily routine. He can articulate his needs much better than he did previously. Steve is a trustworthy, ethical, spiritual, and insightful man. He has the genuine spirit of a teacher and mentor. His coaching skills achieve new levels of success.
    James & Lana
    Parents of a son living with Autism

  • …facilitated a safe and flexible learning experience…

    Steve facilitated a safe and flexible learning experience for our young adult son. We felt we could really talk to Steve about our son’s challenges. He listened well and gave constructive feedback that assisted us with taking preemptive action that helped to support our son through some tough times.
    Jim & Karen
    Parents of a son living with Autism

  • …much more hope for my son’s future than before!

    Steve came highly recommended by my Asperger’s parent group. My adult son struggled to make good choices and was involved with the legal system. Steve taught my son how to make simple goals he could evaluate at a pace he could handle. Now, my son is off probation, working, and has someone in his life he can trust to coach him on personal decisions. I have much more hope for my son’s future than before!
    Lena
    Mother of a son living with Autism & ADHD

  • …perceptive to the needs and growth areas of our son.

    Steve is perceptive to the needs and growth areas of our son. He makes realistic plans with attainable goals that have helped our son make gains toward independence.
    Alan & Kaylene
    Parents of a son living with Autism & ADHD

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